What do you mean there’s a standing ceremony?

Ok, so boom - here are the vibes. You arrive to the venue and are welcomed into the outdoor courtyard garden area attached to the building, where the ceremony will occur (weather permitting). It is hot, because it is July in Wilmington, but you are comfy because beverages are already at the ready upon your arrival. It is a cocktail hour style courtyard party where you mix and mingle with everyone there to celebrate the brides, and your new family and friends. As the ceremony is about to start, guests will be advised to part and make an aisle, as our family and we march in for the ceremony, which will be brief (but lovely). Then guests will be invited indoors for a quick transition into party mode and dancing. There is no seating chart, no plated dinner (see below) , it will be big lounge energy.

If any guests have limited mobility and require designated seating for the ceremony please let us know so that we can make sure it is available and accessible.

Where should we stay? Any suggestions on accommodations?

Summer in Wilmington is a popular time, however because the wedding is the weekend after the big tourist rush of the 4th, accommodations should be easier to come by. The venue (info on the Details page) is Station 2, at the corner of 5th and Castle in downtown Wilmington (not too far from the main drag of Front Street where most of downtown’s restaurants and nightlife are). Anywhere in the downtown or midtown area of Wilmington (whether hotel or AirBnB) would be ideal for the weekend. Here is a site listing most of the downtown area’s main hotels and bed & breakfasts: https://www.wilmingtonandbeaches.com/places-to-stay/downtown/

Can we bring our kids? What about a plus one?

While VanandCam luhhh da kids (Trick Daddy voice), respectfully and unfortunately, no. The venue capacity is small, and we are already breaking a few rules and making some unconventional choices to make sure we can include all family and framily, but some of ya’ll got hella kids. In order to keep close to our word (and contractual obligations) to the venue owners, the wedding will be adults only (with the exception of the children of the immediate family of the wedding participants/party). Similarly, we are unable to provide plus ones for all invitees. All invitation texts/emails will specify all parties invited, and we ask that all parties RSVP individually per person.

While the event isn’t kiddo inclusive, the town of Wilmington totally is, and coming for the wedding can double as a nice beach trip or family vacay. If you need drop-in childcare while you attend the ceremony/reception because you are traveling with your kids check out Giggles! https://www.gigglesdaycareinc.com/locations/wilmington-nc/

What should I wear?

In short, whatever the hell you want! We don’t love a dress code, or restricting the vibes of our loved ones’ personal expression. That being said, we realize that is entirely unhelpful for guests looking for inspiration and that is valid. The overall vibe of the wedding is going to be a tad nontraditional, somewhat unconventional and fun. Think of it like a dressed up party at your favorite brewery or elevated (but not boujee) garden party. We’ve seen some couples do an “upstage the bride” theme, where guests are encouraged to wear that special thing they’ve wanted to wear but haven’t had the occasion to yet. Do not feel limited. Please be extra! Or if extra is not your thing, be chill, do you! We are calling it “creative cocktail,” or “flamboyant semi-formal.” The colors of the decor are going to compliment the brides’ ensembles, rings, and accessories (we will be in white, gold, and emerald tones), so if you want to play along with the theme: gem tones, metallics, moody tones would go great. Here are some random Pinterest mood board inspo pics for vibes.

Are ya’ll going to feed us?

Yes! Back to the vibes of a dressed up party at your favorite brewery, please note that the wedding will not have a formal plated dinner hour. There will be snacks and hors d’oeuvres around at all times, and a complimentary food truck on site for you to eat when your belly tells you it is time. After the ceremony and first dance moment, everyone is free to hit up the truck as many times as they want, whenever they want, but keep in mind if you eat on a specific schedule it may be best to have a late lunch or snack before coming.

Not ya’ll making a whole Insta for this event!

And did. Follow us on Insta @vanandcamswedding to share your fave pics of us, and tag us in all the memories from the wedding weekend please!